Most people who are widowed will talk afterwards about how they flailed around, went numb, didn't know what they were doing or how they...
'It's not those wow moments, it's the ordinary moments you miss'' - Sarah Parfitt on life without her 91 year old father
Things not to say to the bereaved: 'Think of all the memories', 'You were lucky to have him', 'She wouldn't want you to cry'...